I don't really think that anyone truly knows what it's like becoming a grandparent for the first time until you are one. Having heard other new and recent grandparents talk about their experiences always seemed a bit irrelevant at the time. I initially thought all of the talk of how wonderful it was to them was frankly a bit over the top....that is until...yes...it was my turn.
My one and only daughter is the light of my life. When she was born I was unsteadily in the delivery room and actually cut the umbilical cord separating her from her mother. My life utterly changed completely at that moment. I have since always tried to be involved in her life providing love and guidance.
Almost 9-years ago my daughter gave birth to my first grandchild...a beautiful little girl then and now. I was not prepared for the feelings I had when I first saw her, and how those feelings grew throughout the next several years.
I had heard other people say the best part of being a grandparent is "spoiling the child and then giving him/her back". Well that may be somewhat true because you don't have to deal with a lot of the tough parenting issues, however I now know that when my grandchild hurts...I hurt, and when she is happy..I'm happy. It is really no different, from a feelings angle than it was with my daughter.
Approximately 7-months ago (ironically on my birthday) my wonderful daughter blessed me with another grandchild...this time...a sweet little boy. What can I say? Wow! What a blessing! It still surprises me how wonderful being a grandparent can be.
Getting prepared for a new baby is a job for the new parents and, depending on the grandparents involvement can be for them as well. Baby showers are great for getting many essentials for the soon-to-be arrival, however in my experience the grandparents may need to fill in some of the gaps.
As future grandparents we may be assisting with getting the baby's nursery painted and furnished. I remember, before my first grandchild's arrival, focusing on my daughters comfort when getting up in the middle of the night. So I purchased her a glider with an ottoman to rock the baby while feeding her. It was clear to me that being aware of my daughter's needs was just as important as the new baby's needs.
So the best tip I can offer is to be as involved in your grandchild's life as possible. Respect the wishes of your grandchild's parents. Provide gentle guidance if asked. And most of all.. love them with your whole heart and soul. With God's blessings you can't go wrong.
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